11th day of January 15 more days until I’m 25, It feels like I was 24 years old for more than a year. I was thinking about the days when a friend told me about their ex-boyfriend/girlfriend hooked up with their best friend or a friend. My friend would be pissed because their friend did not ask them that if they could hook up with their ex-boyfriend/girlfriend. I believe that when a couple has broken up and either the boyfriend/girlfriend do not have feelings or do not want to work on the relationship out anymore I believe it is up for grabs. I understand the emotions are high and both individuals are hurt or they completely moved for whatever circumstance, either boyfriend/girlfriend have the right to start dating again no matter what the circumstances. Most likely it is the indication that the one of exes do not want to be with their ex-partner.
I was never in love or did not commit, my exes may seem that they were in love, but in reality I did not commit or I wasn’t mature enough to be in love. I’ve learned through listening, reading, observing, and thinking about certain things about relationships. If I was ever in a situation where I was with someone then we suddenly broke up then she found someone else, there is nothing I can do. As individuals, couples, husband and wife no one can predict the outcome of a relationship or marriage. In the book I read back in high school called “Sacred Hoops”, this book gave me a different aspect about life, basically “being in the moment” will dictate what will happen in the between the past and future. Both partners have to work within the relationship to make things work and be on the same page. I believe that has all died out in recent relationships that I have seen or heard. The basic essentials in common marriage or relationships are communication, bonding, trust and honesty. The male mindset sees the girl if she is “hot” then it is a possible relationship, with a girl they assume the position of the guy/boy and he’s cute then it is a possible relationship. Once again, I do not know if it is like that in other areas of the United States, I only believe it because it is the media influence of Hollywood and media of Los Angeles.
I am surprised that Khloe and Lamar Odom have gone a half a year in marriage I thought that they were not going to last within a few months, but it has been a decent marriage between the two. People may say “oh, it is a reality show” I believe you do not understand; this is not for publicity. In high school, when a male/female says someone they like the relationship is established within a month or so, but as you get older. It takes more than a month, because of a potential partner and soul mate for the rest of your life. Mentioned prior, basic essentials have died out; so many relationships formed are not stable. Most girls that I have experienced, they either assume what I would do or what they have experienced with other guys, which I take as an insult. They assume what other guys did to them; I am going to do the same. The last two women I have met, they said “not to expect anything”, okay, so what do you mean? They tell me “Well most guys think this and that”……..In my mind “turn off”!
In my “puppy love” relationships I told my girlfriends do not tell anyone about our relationship. It is none of their business. I do not want to hear their friends complaining about me or hating me. I rather have them hate me, because I had them hate me which I prefer. Mention prior in this blog, when my friend’s ex hooked up with her friend, she was pissed. I rather not develop feelings for someone else and might cheat on her, so I tend to stay away from her friends. I’ll admit I do not have friends, so it makes it easier on me. Problems, arguments, and negativity wastes my time and I had a lot of that in my 24 years, I do not want that anymore. It is only the second week of 2012, so far, things are progressing slowly and greatly I’m still 24, so even better. I continue to assess my manhood before things get serious in my life.
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