I had an interesting conversation with two of my female Starbuck friends, well shit happens. We had conversations about kids, marriage, jobs and living life. Basically, they had the same idea that I’ve learned throughout my adult life; for example, your perfect person can turn out to be the wrong person or the wrong person can eventually be the right person…..interesting. I always say, “Life happens in reverse”. Observing from marriages that a man and women are together for 10 to 15 years to a divorce to having kids are too much work. No matter whom you’re with or what type of relationship you’re in, things bound to change. I even think to myself should I even marry and raise kids or knock up a girl then pay child support and spouse support, I do not think so. I might as well be single for the rest of my life, a house, 2 cars and 3 dogs. I even think about the girls/women, who do not follow through, so what is the point of even getting married?
Right now, as I mentioned in my previous blog that: my career, wealth, being a man and my well-being are my ambitions going into 2012. I do not want to waste time dealing with any stress and problems. The problems I rather deal with are at work and school. That’s one of the reasons, why I am still single. I do not want to hear “I do not have enough money”, “I’m barely making it”, “How come you don’t care?” I want to stand on my own feet and be supported, not questioned. In Los Angeles, things are not structured. One of my Starbucks friends gave me a statistical point where California has a high divorce rate. That proves my theory, why should I even marry or have a relationship in California? Hopefully I pass the background check and officially become Lieutenant and start going forward rather than being completely bored at home. At least, I am staying out of trouble and being more productive day by day. As of right now, I see a young girl at approximately about 17-20 years old who has a baby, pretty girl, but Gee, what a start to life. I rather not do that. Once again, 15 years from now (Age 40).
My two Starbuck female friends, whom one has 4 kids and the other is single. We discussed the plus and minuses of marriage. An agreement upon us three where marriage is a business, but also problems can occur left and right, if two individuals are not on the same page; for example, a typical successful “guy” who is (let just say) 36, and his wife who is 27, and they have 2 kids ages 7 and 3. The wife is hot and she thinks she is secured for life due to her husband has a career with a high salary. Anyhow, the husband and wife are in a bad situation, they get into an argument and decide to divorce. The soon to be ex-wife wants child support and spouse support. She had no degree, but she had a good work history, but has not worked for 7 years, because of being pregnant with her first child. They both go to court; she gets custody of the kids, but does not win the spouse support, but gets the child support. Now, she is screwed over because she was not rewarded with the spouse support, but wins the child support which she will take money from that. That leaves her in a position to find a job and struggle.
Now to the soon to be ex-husband side, he is successful as mentioned prior, he know his wife was getting comfortable and getting lazy, he told his wife to start working and to do a hobby instead of spending money and buying unnecessary stuff. The ex-wife got extremely mad and made a big deal and starting complaining. The ex-husband mentions “you said ‘you were going to take classes after you had the kids’ ‘The kids are in school and day care now, how come you are being lazy and not doing anything”. The ex-wife and husband then on started having long fight. Then he goes to court against his wife and has to be pay child support, has the kids every other day and some weekends, but does not have to pay spousal support. Maybe it is not the ex-husband fault. As mention it is plus and minus, this is only one scenario that can happen.
It gets me to think more about my future involving a family it is not just the positives I look at, but the negatives, so I why should I put myself in a position that commonly happens. I have options to explore before I go any deeper with someone or going into the relationship. I see my career dictating my decision of getting married or starting a family. I’m only at the beginning my manhood, since I just got my degree and pending my next career move. If I ever find someone to go along life with I am still going to let my career dictate my relationship, because that what brings the money and status of the health of marriage. Also, I want my future fiancé, girl friend or wife to have a something going for her. The marriage or engagement has to be healthy I’m not going to work two jobs and burn myself out. I’d probably work teaching at a school, because I want other individuals to learn from me and I can give them my word of success. Even though I’m currently stalled I have options to look at. I can’t until 2012!
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